Here are twenty powerful secrets that will help you form
meaningful relationships with people:
1. When two
people meet, the prize always goes to the one with the most self-insight. He
will be calmer, more confident, more at ease with the other.
2. Never permit the
behavior of other people to tell you how you feel.
3. Pay little
attention to what people say or do. Instead, try to see their innermost motive
for speaking and acting.
4. Any friendship
requiring the submission of your original nature and dignity to another person
is all wrong.
5. Mystically
speaking, there is no difference between you and another person. This is why we
cannot hurt another without hurting ourselves, nor help another without helping
ourselves.
6. When we are
free of all unnecessary desires toward other people, we can never be deceived
or hurt.
7. You take a
giant step toward psychological maturity when you refuse to angrily defend
yourself against unjust slander. For one thing, resistance disturbs your own
peace of mind.
8. You understand
others to the exact degree that you really understand yourself. Work for more
self-knowledge.
9. Do not be
afraid to fully experience everything that happens to you in your human
relations, especially the pains and disappointments. Do this and everything becomes
clear at last.
10. The individual
who really knows what it means to love has no anxiety when his love is unseen
or rejected.
11. If you
painfully lose a valuable friend, do not rush out at once for a replacement.
Such action prevents you from examining your heartache and breaking free of it.
12. Do not be
afraid to be a nobody in a social world. This is a deeper and richer truth than
appears on the surface.
13. Every
unpleasant experience with another person is an opportunity to see people as
they are, not as we mistakenly idealize them. The more unpleasant the other
person is, the more he can teach you.
14. You can be so
wonderfully free from a sense of injury and injustice that you are surprised
when you hear others complain of them.
15. We cannot recognize
a virtue in another person that we do not possess in ourselves. It takes a
truly loving and patient person to recognize those virtues in another.
16. Do not mistake
desire for love. Desire leaves home in a frantic search for one gratification
after another. Love is at home with itself.
17. There are parts
of you that want the loving life and parts that do not. Place yourself on the
side of the positive forces: do all you can to aid and encourage them.
18. You must stop
living timidly from fixed fears of what others will think of you and of what
you will think of yourself.
19. Do not contrive
to be a loving person: work to be a real person. Being real is being loving.
20. The greatest
love you could ever offer to another is to so transform your inner life that
others are attracted to your genuine example of goodness.
Source : Theunboundedspirit.com