Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them,
will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many
things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead
of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and
happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all
those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here
we go:
1.
Give up
your need to always be right. There are so many of us who
can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the
risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain,
for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’
need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this
question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne
Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2.
Give up
your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always
control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events,
people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet
on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just
as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By
letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But
when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao
Tzu
3.
Give up
on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or
don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and
start taking responsibility for your life.
4.
Give up
your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are
hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive
self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you
– especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The
mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes
very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5.
Give up
your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is
possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your
limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and
fly!
“A
belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly
Roselle
6.
Give up
complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about
those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you
unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make
you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that
triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never
underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7.
Give up
the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things,
events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are
all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we
all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us
all.
8.
Give up
your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be
something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this
way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the
moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real
you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9.
Give up
your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move
from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the
lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow
your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only
walls” Joseph Campbell
10. Give up
labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t
understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by
little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you
reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11.
Give up
on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist –
you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will
fall into place.
“The
only fear we have to fear, is fear itself.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up
your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired.
You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses
we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we
get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9%
of the time are not even real.
13. Give up
the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks
so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you
have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you
have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past
that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop
deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all
life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future,
prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up
attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so
hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but
it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and
practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t
mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing
to do with one another, attachment comes
from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less,
where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and
love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so
serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things
without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s
expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is
not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is
best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is
best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their
government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice,
that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to
other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They
forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually
they forget about themselves. You have
one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t
let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.