by Tanaaz
I have seen spiritually awakened, amazingly strong people
fall into relationships that are sometimes abusive, stressful and manipulative
and often wondered- why?
There are probably many reasons this happens, but it seems
that strong people are already so good at working on themselves and digging
through their own baggage, that often it takes a relationship to really push
them out of their comfort zone.
While I have never been in an abusive relationship, when I
met my partner it definitely felt as if I was being challenged by the Universe
to unearth things that I believe, could only really could be unearthed by
entering into a romantic partnership.
I was excellent at being independent and had done a lot of
work on myself, but it seemed that entering into a relationship that really
mattered, unexpectedly turned my life upside down.
Relationships often teach us the most about ourselves,
especially when we are already strong characters.
If you are struggling in your relationship, if you are
wondering why you seem to have everything else flowing smoothly in your life
except romance, it could be a sign that you are a strong soul that is here to
experience deeper, transformative work through “other”.
Here is why strong people often encounter difficult
relationships and how to move through it-
Understand
that Relationships are Part of Something Bigger
Strong people are often so good when they are on their own,
but suddenly they enter into a significant relationship only to discover a
whole suitcase of baggage they didn’t even know they had.
It is one thing to work through your own skeletons, but when
they are triggered by another person, things can get messy very quickly.
It is important for people in this situation to remember
that their relationship is part of something bigger and is there to help bring
about growth, change and transformation.
In order for strong people to grow, their relationships
often have to present some challenge in order to reach through to the other
side.
This is not to say that strong people are forever doomed,
but in the early days especially, it could be typical to attract these sorts of
challenging relationships.
By focusing on the bigger picture and the growth that is to
be had through the relationship, it can sometimes help to keep things in
perspective.
Strong people often enter into relationships that also serve
a higher purpose that perhaps may not even be revealed in this lifetime.
This is because strong people attract-
1.)
Many Soulmate Relationships
Strong people are often destined to enter into many soulmaterelationships.
Soulmates come into our lives to help challenge our soul in
order to grow. Soulmate work can be very heavy, painful and amazing all at the
same time, but the ultimate mission is growth of the soul.
It is through these relationships that strong people often
do their most healing and self-discovery. This is because they are so good at
being independent that merging with another person is where most of their
weaknesses are highlighted.
Soulmate relationships also don’t have to be forever, but in
terms of growth and evolution, the effects of the relationship are likely to
last a lifetime.
2.)
Healing Relationships
Many strong people are also healers and therefore, will
attract partners that need a lot of healing and attention.
Strong people are also generally equipped to handle the pain
and emotions of people who need healing, emotional support and comfort, which
is why the Universe will bring them together.
Healing is never one-sided however. If you are doing a lot
of healing work in your relationship, it is likely that both parties are
experiencing the benefits.
Strong people are also often sent to help other souls work
through similar patterns or skeletons that they have had to deal with either in
this life, or in past lives.
The one thing to be mindful of here is not to get caught up
in a one-sided relationship. If you are feeling drained from all the ‘healing’
work, it may be a sign that you need to also shift your way of thinking and
being in the relationship in order for it to grow.
3.)
Karmic Relationships
Often a challenging relationship is full of karma from past
lives. Relationships can also trigger things within us that can cause us to
feel heavy, confronted and confused.
Karmic relationships are often intense and heavy, especially
in the beginning. There can also be a strong, unexplained pull to each other,
or even a strong repulsion at times.
Healing old karmic wounds in a relationship is challenging
work, but can also be a huge potential of growth and revolution.
When it comes to karmic work, the lessons will continue to
follow you from relationship to relationship in order to be healed, released
and cleansed.
Strong people often attract a lot of this into their lives
because they are strong enough to handle it and have been given the tools they
need to work through this karmic energy.
Doing karmic work in a relationship doesn’t mean that you
have to tolerate abuse or other bad behaviour, but sometimes sticking with the
lesson and making your way to the other side can be the most therapeutic thing
for your soul.
What
Strong People in Challenging Relationships Can Do
1.) Give yourself permission to be weak. Often strong people
go through life always having to support other people, but challenging
relationships can help stimulate the opposite. Allow yourself to be held and
supported in the relationship, and resist always having to be the strong one.
2.) Learn to soften yourself and melt any barriers you have
created surrounding receiving love. Often strong people are very good at giving
but they are not so good at receiving.
3.) Understand that all relationships are just experiences
that are here to help you grow and evolve into your highest potential. Embrace
the challenges that come your way and remember it is all part of the journey.
4.) Focus on self-love. When you truly love yourself and
make decisions from this place, it will help you to move forward in the
relationship.
5.) Remember that challenging relationships can sometimes be
the most rewarding. When you can move through the issues and into a clearer
space, it can create a strong relationship that is often for life.
Source : Foreverconscious